According to recent surveys, 44% of married couples believe that fighting more than once a week helps them maintain healthier and more productive relationships over a long period of time. In fact, couples who quarrel often, but peacefully, are more likely to stay together, because despite all the little disagreements, the partners know that their love is genuine and sincere.
At WittyBubbles, we investigated and discovered why occasional arguments can be good for your relationship.
9. To argue is the sign of a mature relationship
Constantly avoiding conflict is not the best way to build a lasting relationship. On the contrary, if you are able to say clearly what you think when you discuss , it means that you are ready to take your love to another level.
Mature people also do not use personal attacks or shouting. Instead, they always try to find a compromise and improve their relationship with a healthy argument.
8. To argue means that something matters to you
Of course, it would be much easier to close your eyes and try to ignore some of your partner’s habits that drive you crazy. But the fact that you are ready to endure all the difficulty and discomfort of struggling to improve your relationship in the future can be a sign that you feel true love.
In other words, arguing means that you are very involved in the relationship. Do not forget: How often do you argue with your parents or siblings? The same goes for your partner. It means that you have an overview with the person with whom you share your life.
7. Dispute facilitates communication
To build trust in the relationship, you must not remain silent. On the contrary, it is essential to get closer to the beloved with an open mind, to take responsibility for one’s actions and to listen to each other attentively.
Since discussion is one of the most important and honest forms of communication, it really helps to speed up the feelings of intimacy and trust and to strengthen the connection between the two. It also teaches you and your partner how to communicate in a more productive way.
6. Quarreling is a sign of a healthy relationship
Psychologists believe there are 7 crucial points to a healthy relationship, and the fight is one of them. In fact, if a couple is never arguing, it may be a sign that something is wrong.
Disputes help couples to reconsider their values and feelings, by addressing the things that are important to them, but it is important that these differences remain healthy and non-aggressive: always try to give your arguments without insulting your spouse, or raising the voice.
5. The disputes reinforce the link
When you fight with your partner, it does not matter if you win or lose. The most important thing is to learn a lot about each other and especially to discover oneself.
Small conflicts help you both to reveal your true nature and to show others how to behave with you. If you succeed in overcoming all of these challenges together, you will learn to engage and strengthen the connection between you.
4. Arguments appease your resentment
Being in a relationship is not so easy: if you care about your partner, you must always give the best of yourself and be flexible and flexible within your limits. And if the other does not do the same thing, the grudge can begin to settle.
Do not defend your position when it comes to things important to you can give your partner the idea that he can have anything he wants and that will only increase your resentment. This is the path to an unhealthy relationship.
The best way to solve this problem is to get rid of your negative feelings and communicate with your partner to explain your feelings and to improve mutual understanding and respect for your own needs.
3. Quarreling means that you are more likely to stay together
According to some studies, the biggest mistake that couples make is often to avoid problems: we often feel that something is wrong but we do not say anything. And this poor communication is transformed into the main cause of rupture.
Although one might think that addressing sensitive topics will do no good to the relationship, this is actually not true. The arguments allow you to focus on the problems and solve them before they become too big. This is why couples who quarrel generally stay together longer than those who do not.
2. The disputes revive the passion
Some couples enjoy having intense arguments because it increases their hormone levels. Unconsciously, these people understand that arguments are only a sign of their passion and that their differences always result in an intense and heated reconciliation.
If you want to maintain a strong and successful relationship, it is necessary to express your emotions from time to time rather than oppress them. But be careful to end any dispute in a positive and constructive way.
1. The disputes save you from boredom and routine
Even if you have been in a relationship for a long time, there will always be things you disagree with. There is no harm in this: a constructive conflict can revive the spark in the relationship and make it more exciting.
Think for a moment about how annoying your couple would be if you both agreed all the time! So do not worry about the next fight but try to do everything to make it positive for your relationship and your future life together.
Bonus: how to have healthy arguments with your partner
It is always important to remember that there are differences between a good and a very bad fight. Only the first can be beneficial to the relationship.
Here are some tips we suggest you follow to turn your argument into a constructive and productive discussion:
- Respect each other. You both are human beings who have their own weaknesses, so do not try to hurt the other person by pointing at things that could irreversibly hurt your partner.
- Apologize. If you were wrong, admit it and say out loud that you are sincerely sorry. This little demonstration will not make you weaker. On the contrary, it will show your partner how much you care about him / her.
- Do not change the subject. Never mention the experiences of your previous relationships or the mistakes of your partner that you had never mentioned before. Concentrate on the subject in question and try to be as specific as possible.
- Do not use third parties. Leave your friends and / or family out of your relationship to prevent your partner from feeling isolated or at a disadvantage. Fix the problem both, remaining calm and respectful to each other.
How often do you argue with your spouse? How do conflicts usually end? Tell us in the comments below.
Illustrated by: Yekaterina Ragozina